Why are American women crazy for Latin men?
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Latin men take top billing in the fantasies of many an Americana: the handsome guy who can twirl you like a pro on the dance floor even if you have two left feet; the attentive lover whose smoldering eyes undress you in public; the impassioned suitor who knows you belong together and will stop at nothing to make you see it.
OK, perhaps I’ve indulged in more than a few stereotypes when it comes to romance, but I am not the only woman who has found herself bewitched by the charms of a Latin man.
Perhaps the jury is out on whether Latinos make the greatest husbands. Apparently there are certain issues of fidelity that many find a bit off-putting. For example, a 2007 study showed that about 20 percent of married or cohabitating Dominican men had been unfaithful in the past year.
But the mystique of the Latin lover still gets the blood pulsing in ladies from California to Connecticut. What is it about Latin men that make American girls want to run out and get a Rosetta Stone Spanish course? Plenty.
In my experience, a Latin man who is interested in a woman makes his intentions known early on. Be ready for the barrage of phone calls, emails, and whatever form of communication available from your suitor. These guys generally don’t play around when they are into you.
None of the “wait a day, then call” nonsense. My husband, who is Dominican, called me almost daily after we met even though we lived in different countries (I lived in the Dominican Republic and he was living in Miami). He would find ways to visit me almost every other weekend.
Latin men throw caution to the wind when it comes to courtship and to be the object of that abandon is almost addictive, having someone recklessly pursue you is refreshing. If he doesn’t, then – to borrow the famous line – maybe he’s just not that into you.
Comedian Dave Chapelle once joked, “If chivalry is dead, then women killed it.” For most Latin men, chivalry still lives and is a cultural norm. It’s rare to find a Latino that won’t instinctively open doors or offer to pay when out on a date. If you come across a guy that does not go above and beyond when it comes to courtesy in the beginning stages of a relationship, something is amiss. You better head for the hills.
Why do Latin men tend to be flagrant in their demonstrations of gentlemanliness? My guess is that we can thank Latin women for the years spent conditioning the men in their lives to behave a certain way in a woman’s presence. Latinas expect men to be attentive, kind, generous, and courteous. This kind of behavior is not considered to be patronizing, it is simply respectful.
You can usually get a hint as to how a man is going to treat you based on how he treats his mother. While Latin men are not Italian men - a 2006 poll revealed that 3 out of 10 divorces in Italy cited the cause of the rupture as the husband’s meddling mamma- their mothers wield a lot of influence over them. There are few things my mother-in-law could ask of my husband that he wouldn’t do and I have yet to see him do anything she has asked begrudgingly.
But perhaps his uncompromising duty to his mother makes a Latin man that much more likely to respect and accept the existence of a powerful feminine presence in his life. While a wife and a mother obviously fulfill two different roles, a Latin man who has a strong bond with his mother will prove to be a caring provider and a sympathetic partner.
A four-month trip to the Dominican Republic turned into a two-year residence for Amy Reyes, a Michigan native whose Spanish was just good enough to find a bathroom. She fell in love with the culture, the music, and the language and later met her husband and moved to Miami, which is about as close to the United States as one can get without leaving Latin America. Amy Reyes is Assistant Editor at Miami.com and writes for the Miami Herald. She has a Bachelor's Degree in English Literature and Creative Writing from the University of Michigan.
The word "Latin" comes from the Romance languages of French, Portuguese, Spanish, and Italian. There might be another one. So why is it becoming exclusive to Latino or Spanish? Yes, Latin men have always swooped American women, but when I hear the word "Latin," I think of the countries that I mentioned-French, Italian, Portuguese, and Spanish or Latino men. Most Latin men are incredibly passionate, love family, children, his home, religion,soccer, and the "Mother" country. But the downside, as someone stated about HIspanic men, and I am bringing it out more to the "Latin" or Romance Language background-infidelity is a huge trait of the Latin man. Once a person accepts that fact, life with a Latin man is amazing.